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How can you improve communication with your partner once and for all?
From the office of
Yolanda & Shamon Harper
Tampa, Florida
Dear friend,
After taking our “What’s Your Couple’s Communication Style?” Quiz and discovering your unique results, you might have a clearer idea of your specific communication style from a psychological point of view.
On this page, we want to help you to take your second step to resolve the communication problems you are facing in your relationship with your partner.
Our greatest mission is to help you communicate better with your partner.
As we all know… communicating things with your partner can get really frustrating sometimes.
Especially when we want to express ourselves but we don’t really know how.
It can be difficult to talk about hard things. Many times when trying to share your feelings, thoughts, and frustrations with your partner, it can feel like your partner just doesn’t listen, like they are ignoring you, making you feel not respected, unheard, and misunderstood.
Here’s the truth; there are 2 situations you want to avoid at all costs in your relationship:
Being in a struggling relationship with a partner that you love, but can’t find a way to communicate with. Ignoring the issues with communication in your relationship hoping they will go away. Pretending that you’re doing just fine and putting on a mask when you’re really feeling frustrated and exhausted inside because everybody tells you that this is just how things are (← THAT’S A LIE!).
OR (even worse) the stress of being stuck in constant argument cycles wreaks havoc on your relationship and you’re forced to go your separate ways… your once-beautiful relationship inevitably dying to a separation or divorce.
If you want to:
learn how to communicate with your partner with love and respect;
strengthen the trust and connection between you, and;
both of you to feel happy, heard, understood, safe, and loved again…
Then this course can be the breakthrough you were waiting for.
Our Healthy Relationship Impetus (HRI) course works on a deeper level, reaching the foundation your relationship is built on, focusing right on the spot where you can build healthy and loving communication long term.
We’ll talk about it more in detail later on this page, but first, let me tell you…
…that the HRI Course is the exact same methodology we developed after more than a decade of research and experience working on our own relationship!
That’s right.
We saved our relationship from ending up in a very scary and unhappy place due to a lack of healthy communication.
We recently hit over 30+ years of being together, and the first 10 years can be defined in a simple two simple words… frustrating & terrible!
It’s all because we didn’t have what you can get here today.
If the HRI method worked for us, it can help you too.
If it seems impossible, if you’re having a hard time believing that we can help you make a change in your relationship, we get it. We were no different, we were in the same place. We tried millions of tips and strategies, but none of them gave us the results we wanted.
Fortunately for you, we’ve tried and tested the Healthy Relationship Impetus and we’ve seen it work wonders for thousands of other couples we taught it to in our Relationship Therapy office at Harper Therapy!
I, Yolanda, started as a trauma therapist and came to relationship work because of the impact that our past has on our current-day relationships.
In the beginning, I studied all these other relationship experts in the field but they always fell short…
…because they share all these cool tips but they never give you a way to deal with the parts of you that are responsible for your unhealthy communication with your partner.
Let me explain how it works.
What is this invisible force that is stopping us from having the dream relationship we always wanted?
Most of us don't realize that when we were children, we learned how relationships work by looking at and observing all the people around us.
What we saw and experienced as children directly affects the way we act in our adult relationships right now.
When we were children, everything we were observing, from every action to every reaction, and response, to all the situations and triggers, was being saved in our subconscious mind.
Our mind can be divided in two;
the conscious mind and the subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind is the part of our mind that triggers our automatic behaviors.
All the automatic responses, behaviors, habits, and predispositions are stored there.
Everything we learn as children, about life, relationships, survival, and everything else, is stored in our subconscious mind.
“If it’s all subconscious, isn’t it impossible to change?“
It must be, right? This is what we’re constantly being told, after all! That people don’t change, that this is just how relationships are, that this is who you are and who your partner is and always will be and that there is no way of changing that… right?
Well…
Let me tell you a secret.
This is a false statement.
Automatic subconscious behaviors CAN BE CHANGED.
The thing is, these automatic behaviors happen so quickly that people often think that they are incapable of taking any kind of action against them…
Many people think:
We are doomed to always be exploding during hard conversations;
One of us will shut down or explode during a difficult conflict and we can’t avoid it;
I’m always gonna feel unheard, misunderstood, and ignored, and I just have to learn to live with it…
But again, THIS IS NOT TRUE!
You can change your automatic behaviors, and by doing, so you work on the root cause that makes conversations with your partner sooo hard!
So, how do you even get around to changing your automatic behaviors?
The thing about automatic behaviors is that they are always there.
We can’t just eliminate them or get rid of them.
Automatic behaviors are our built-in survival mechanics to keep us safe.
They work on autopilot because our brain is more preoccupied to keep us safe.
Whatever danger the brain perceives, whether it’s a proverbial tiger chasing you, or you’re in the middle of a stressful interaction between you and your partner, our brains fire up the automatic behaviors to keep us safe.
Consider this:
All these times when you or your partner…
shut down, ignore, or stonewall one another;
scream, explode, or lose control;
reply in a passive-aggressive way, roll your eyes, or give each other the silent treatment…
…it is your automatic behaviors that are taking over.
Now that you know what these automatic behaviors are, you have a better understanding of why it’s not so easy to get to your partner.
I came to couples work from a trauma lens, and from the latest scientific discoveries, we know that the brain and its structural interconnections change over the course of our entire existence.
The brain has the ability to change its structure in response to experience, and this process is called neuroplasticity.
Once we take these automatic subconscious behaviors and we start wrapping words around these patterns and we make the implicit explicit… that's step number one for changing the automatic behaviors!
So, automatic behaviors are something that we can get a handle on and change.
These automatic behaviors don't have to control us and they don't have to destroy our relationships.
In fact, the best part about automatic behaviors is that…
Existing automatic behaviors can be changed and replaced by new ones.
That’s right! There are ways to change your automatic behaviors to ones that are working FOR your relationship, not AGAINST it.
Now you might be thinking…
How can I change these automatic behaviors and finally improve communication in my relationship?
Now you know that automatic behaviors CAN BE CHANGED!
They can be replaced with newer, more helpful relationship behaviors.
You can change them through our own method called the Healthy Relationship Impetus.
When those automatic behaviors that get fired up in your relationship meet our unique Healthy Relationship Impetus, we end up with a reaction.
That reaction creates a connected, respectful and joyful relationship.
The Healthy Relationship Impetus (HRI)*:
Gives you in-depth communication strategies, which, when put into practice, help you achieve long-term results in your relationship;
Gives you a step-by-step method that works to change your automatic subconscious behaviors;
When put into practice by you and your partner, HRI can help you change your automatic behaviors and give you long-lasting results, transforming your relationship into the beautiful and connected one you’ve always dreamt of.
Our Healthy Relationship Impetus (HRI) course works on a deeper level, reaching the foundation your relationship is built on, focusing right on the spot where you can build healthy and loving communication long term.
* - FULL 30-DAY MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE - if you’re feeling skeptical if our method can improve your relationship, you have 30 days to test this program out. If after 30 days you still don’t think this is for you, we have a full money-back guarantee to make this a 100% safe bet for you!
Here’s what you’re getting:
our new
Healthy Relationship Impetus Course
This proven methodology was built based on years of research, 30 years of personal experience, and working with thousands of couples, helping them create their dream relationship.
Inside our Healthy Relationship Impetus Course, we will…
Teach you how to use our strategy called “Time Out”, why it’s important, and how to apply this technique to make sure the hard conversations between you and your partner remain productive, respectful, and balanced while keeping things under control;
Teach you how to use our time-tested Feedback Framework to have difficult conversations following and show you our 4-step framework to guide you through expressing your needs, emotions, and frustrations to your partner in a calm, loving, and respectful way;
Teach you how Empathy is your superpower, and how it can help you reconnect with your partner and with yourself, by allowing you to notice your and your partner’s emotions with ease and then use that to your advantage, without fearing that things are going to fall apart;
Teach you about the Art of the Apology and give you the 9 essential ingredients for a heartfelt conversation, so that you will never have to worry about figuring out how to handle the post-conflict awkwardness ever again;
And much, much more…
Who is this for:
Our Healthy Relationship Impetus Course is built specifically for couples who…
Are wondering if there’s any hope for improving their relationship, worry that they have gone too far, or who think their relationship is beyond saving;
Want to work on their relationship and are open to learning new skills, strategies, and techniques that could help them reach their dream relationship;
Know that in order to improve their relationship and learn how to handle difficult conversations better, they need to put in the work and get out of their comfort zone, to become the best they can be for themselves and for their partners;
They are willing to follow the advice of a trained, experienced professional who knows exactly what they need to learn to overcome their hurdles, no matter what this advice could be;
Love their partner, or the idea of being with their partner, and they dream of building a better relationship with the person by their side.
Our Healthy Relationship Impetus (HRI) course works on a deeper level, reaching the foundation your relationship is built on, focusing right on the spot where you can build healthy and loving communication long term.
Who is this NOT for:
On the other hand, our solution is not built for Couples who…
Don’t want to invest any time, energy, or effort into improving their relationship;
Believe that this is just how things are, and they are certain that there is no way that their situation is ever gonna change;
Look for magic-pill, one-stop-shop solutions to overcome their challenges without any work;
Think that improving the foundations of a good relationship is beyond them, and who refuse to learn anything new about communication, expressing their feelings, and loving and respecting their partner.
Our Healthy Relationship Impetus (HRI) course works on a deeper level, reaching the foundation your relationship is built on, focusing right on the spot where you can build healthy and loving communication long term.
Full 30-day money-back Guarantee
Listen, the reality is…
You have no idea what’s really waiting for you inside our Healthy Relationship Impetus Course.
We all have these questions when we are joining something new… and we never know what’s waiting for us.
And we don't want you to have to take all that risk.
There’s more than enough of the day-to-day stuff that life throws at us that we have to deal with… stress about, and worry about…
So what we DON’T want is for our Healthy Relationship Impetus Course to be yet another thing that’s going to take your mental space and worry whether you made the right choice or not.
This is why we are offering you…
…Healthy Relationship Impetus Course Guarantee.
When you join us today and you get access to the Healthy Relationship Impetus, we will include a 30-day Guarantee.
The program is structured to be applied in 4 weeks, or 30 days. You’ll have the full program period, the 30 days, to TEST IT ALL and go through everything, use all the materials, apply the skills in your relationship and then decide if it was worth the investment.
And, if, for whatever reason, at the end of the 30 days since your purchase you aren’t satisfied with the course, then we’ll give you a full, 100% money-back refund, and all you’d have to do is send us an email.
How easy is that?
Now all that’s left for you to do is click the button below to get instant access to the program for only $35.99!
That’s not all…
You can probably imagine how easy it is to use these skills when you’re calm and relaxed, and when you and your partner are in a good place…
So, if you decide to take your next step to reach your dream relationship and join us in the Healthy Relationship Impetus Course today…
…we'll also give you the following BONUSES:
BONUS #1 - Feedback Wheel Cheat Sheet
This bonus will:
Teach you exactly what to say to express your needs, thoughts and frustrations in a clear and loving way, so that you and your partner can understand each other better;
Help you to navigate your emotions in a range of different scenarios, so that you won’t have to worry about figuring out the best way to communicate during heated moments;
Give you a list of things to say during a hard conversation, making it much easier for you to express yourself, without having to think about the right words when you’re feeling angry, stressed, frustrated or anxious.
BONUS #2 - Mood Meter Tool
This bonus will:
Give you tested and proven tools to express difficult feelings and understand your emotions during hard situations;
Help you use all your feelings and emotions (the good and the bad ones) to your advantage, so that you can understand yourself better, and, at the same time, so that your partner can understand you better, too;
Give you a tool that can be used also in your other relationships, not only with your partner but also with your parents and parents-in-law, your children, friends, and coworkers.
BONUS #3 - 25 things to do during a time out
This bonus will:
Give you many ideas for activities that will help you to reconnect with yourself and your partner in a difficult moment;
Show you what you can do for yourself to have the space to understand your emotions, even the hard-to-handle ones;
Give you a cheat sheet of activities and exercises you can do to cool down during or after a conflict so that you can handle the difficult conversation without hurting each other.
…Why are we giving away all of these for just $35.99?
So by now, you might be asking yourself - what’s the catch?
Why are we giving away so much for so little?
After over 30 years of experience helping couples and working on our relationship, we’ve been noticing a lot of people not taking the first step to work on their relationship for very silly reasons.
This decision to not take that first step cost them money, time, mental energy, health…and their relationship.
If they only reached out for help and went through our therapy process they could have saved their relationship much earlier, could have saved a lot of time, and finally built the beautiful relationship they always desired.
But, unfortunately, not everybody wants to jump on or can commit to a 1-to-1 weekly in-person meeting, talking about their problems, remembering the pain, crying, and being vulnerable in front of a stranger.
It’s scary and we get it.
For this reason, we care about building TRUST in advance.
Giving away a tool, a process that you could use on your own to test and see, at zero risk, what would it be like to work on your relationship without having to talk to a stranger.
And, we wanted to build this trust at a very affordable price, to help you to break that vicious cycle of obstacles and excuses that are holding you back from building a happy, healthy and fulfilling relationship and finally communicating with your partner with love, trust, and respect.
This is the reason why we prepared this no-brainer offer for you.
We want to help as many people as possible, hoping that even the most uncertain person could jump on this journey with us together, and finally take a step forward to fixing their relationship.
This is your time to finally build healthy communication between you and your partner.
Our Healthy Relationship Impetus (HRI) course works on a deeper level, reaching the foundation your relationship is built on, focusing right on the spot where you can build healthy and loving communication long term.
FAQ
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Where you will enter your information and where you can confirm everything you will receive by ordering today.
It is part of our commitment to transparency, safety and accountability.
+ What kind of results can I expect?
Since each person's situation is different, it's impossible to see the same results on everyone.
Some have had noticeable improvements within just two weeks. Others, on the other hand, have had slower, but still constant improvements.
And since the results are cumulative, we encourage you to use our Couple’s Communication Course + Bonuses every day, in every situation in order to reinforce your new skills. The more you stick to the program, the more drastic your improvements will be.
If you need more support you have the possibility to book a consultation call with our therapists for free.
+ This sounds amazing, but I feel guilty spending money on this…
Listen, I totally get it!
When you’re used to putting the struggles in your relationship on the back burner, hoping for them to resolve themselves, or it feels like there’s no hope of anything ever changing or improving… it can be hard to invest in something related to improving your relationship.
But, the truth is, there isn’t a better thing to improve your relationship than to communicate with love, respect and allow both YOU and your partner to feel heard, safe and loved again… And, most importantly, to have the confidence that you can both handle any hard conversations that will inevitably come your way! … and, you can get access to the Healthy Relationship Course and all its bonuses for only $35.99.
How easy is that?
+ It sounds cool and all… but is this right for ME?
This is for couples who tried many things but failed. This is for couples who want to feel heard, safe, understood and loved again.
So, whether you’re…
Someone who wants to know WHY it is so difficult to communicate with your partner sometimes, someone who wants to learn better ways to communicate with your partner;
Wondering if there’s any hope for improving your relationship, worry that you have gone too far, or if you think your relationship is beyond saving;
Someone who wants to work on your relationship and is open to learning new skills, strategies, and techniques that could help you reach your dream relationship;
Someone who is willing to follow the advice of a trained, experienced professional who knows exactly what they need to learn to overcome their hurdles, no matter what this advice could be;
Someone who genuinely loves their partner, or the idea of being with their partner, and they dream about building a better relationship with the person by their side;
Someone who is tired of constantly getting stuck in the same argument cycles, talking about the same thing over and over again, without effect and;
Someone who, more than anything, wants to feel safe, heard, understood and loved, and who wants their partner to feel the same way…
… the Healthy Relationship Impetus Course is perfect for you.
+ I’ve tried so many other “communication techniques” before but none of them worked well, how is this going to be different?
First thing you need to know is that YOU are not the problem.
After all, you’re here, reading this email and trying to figure out if this is right for you, because you really DO want to do something to improve your relationship. Kudos for that!
The reason why so many other communication tips, techniques and hacks didn’t work for you, is because they are all based around very surface-level concepts.
The truth is, our complex human brains have evolved to look for shortcuts, to make our life as easy as possible. While these shortcuts are often helpful and essential for our survival, many times they can also work to our disadvantage!
We call these shortcuts automatic behaviours.
Our automatic behaviours are what’s responsible for getting stuck in argument cycles, for wanting to improve the communication in your relationship but still feeling like nothing’s ever gonna change, no matter how hard you try.
HRI, or the Healthy Relationship Impetus, is different from other courses and methods, because it allows you to understand how to change these automatic behaviours and finally break the cycles of arguments, conflicts and misunderstandings.
And, best of all, the Healthy Relationship Impetus helps you learn NEW automatic behaviours that will in turn drastically change the communication in your relationship for the better!
+ This sounds amazing, but I’m not sure if my partner will want to do this with me… and I don’t want to just do it behind their back!
That’s a totally valid concern, and it’s good that you’re thinking about it… it means that you care about your partner!
The good news is, you don’t really need your partner’s agreement or involvement to do this with you.
Even though it’s a Healthy Relationship Impetus Course, you, just by yourself, have enough power to steer your relationship in the right direction, without needing to have your partner on board right from the beginning.
With the skills you’ll learn in our Healthy Relationship Impetus Course, you will take a BIG step toward improving your relationship for the better.
Good communication always starts within us. It all starts within each of us individually. So, by joining me in our course and learning how to communicate better with your partner, naturally, your relationship and your communication will improve just with your own brave first step.
Imagine this; after seeing all the improvement your relationship has taken just by YOUR decision to learn these skills inside our Healthy Relationship Impetus course, your partner will notice the difference in you and your connection, and seeing that these skills actually work to make your life easier in practice, they will want to jump on board with you, to improve your relationship even further!
+ Why is the course so cheap? What’s the catch?
After over 30 years of experience helping couples and working on my own relationship, I’ve been noticing a lot of people not taking the first step to work on their relationship for very silly reasons.
This decision to not take that first step cost them money, time, mental energy, health…and their relationships.
It’s scary and I get it!
For this reason, I care about building TRUST in advance.
Giving away a tool, a process that you could use on your own to test and see, at zero risk, what it would be like to work on your relationship.
And, I wanted to build this trust with you at a very affordable price, so that you have absolutely no excuses to break that vicious cycle of obstacles that are holding you back from building a happy, healthy and fulfilling relationship and finally communicating with your partner with love, trust, and respect.
This is the real reason why I prepared this no-brainer offer for you, at only $35.99 for the whole Healthy Relationships Impetus Course with all its bonuses.
I want to help as many people as possible, hoping that even the most uncertain person could jump on this journey with me and finally take a step forward to fixing your relationship.
This is your time to finally build healthy communication between you and your partner!
+ I don’t really have a lot of time to be learning new skills… how difficult will it be?
Me neither. And you don’t really need to find more time to learn these skills!
The Healthy Relationship Impetus Course is structured to be applied in 4 weeks, or 30 days. Each week, you will receive videos teaching you the skills in the most efficient way.
The skills you will learn inside will help you replace the unhelpful automatic behaviours that are currently getting you stuck in the vicious cycles of arguments and feeling misunderstood.
And, what’s amazing about the way we structured the course, is that you will also receive lots of materials helping you to manage difficult situations, without having to think too hard about how to do it on your own. From expressing your frustrations in a calm and easy-to-understand way, understanding you and your partner’s true feelings, to learning how a successful apology is formed, and much, much more…
So, naturally, you will not need any more time, because the new skills will help you replace the communication patterns and habits you’re currently used to, to improve your relationship and the connection between you and your partner for the better!
+ What if I don't love it? Do you have a guarantee?
You have no idea what’s really waiting for you inside our Healthy Relationship Impetus. And I don't want you to have to take all that risk.
There’s more than enough of the day-to-day stuff that life throws at us that we have to deal with… stress about, and worry about…
So what we DON’T want is for our Healthy Relationship Impetus Course to be yet another thing that’s going to take your mental space and worry whether you made the right choice or not.
This is why I'm offering you a full, money-back guarantee.
When you join us today and you get access to the Healthy Relationship Impetus, we will include a 30-day Guarantee.
The program is structured to be applied in 4 weeks, or 30 days. You’ll have the full program period, the 30 days, to TEST IT ALL and go through everything, use all the materials, apply the skills in your relationship and then decide if it was worth the investment.
And, if, for whatever reason, at the end of the 30 days since your purchase you aren’t satisfied with the course, then we’ll give you a full, 100% money-back refund, and all you’d have to do is send us an email.
How easy is that?
+ What if I have more questions?
You can always contact us via our support email at info@harpertherapy.com for any doubts or questions.
Our Healthy Relationship Impetus (HRI) course works on a deeper level, reaching the foundation your relationship is built on, focusing right on the spot where you can build healthy and loving communication long term.
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