As parents, we can take steps to become our teens' vault', their safe space, where their thoughts, feelings, opinions, and emotions are safeguarded.

ou may ask yourself, "Why won't my teen talk to me?" Are you frustrated with competing with the device in their hand? Are they closed off to you? Standoffish

You have to take small steps every day. You cannot expect to do inner child work one time and then be an expert at articulating and coping with your emotions. Remember that practice leads to mastery. Here are the steps you need to be aware of to see progress when it comes to healing emotional neglect and mastering emotional intelligence.

If you want to change that emotional mess you get caught up in and actually want to be able to process your emotions and other people's feelings, then working with your childhood emotional wound is the best place to start.

You might still be struggling with the leftovers of your emotional neglect during childhood.

You might be used to not understanding what you actually feel, and you keep struggling to understand any other type of feeling.

Lack of emotional intelligence means it is frustrating and challenging for you to identify and express your emotions. Trying to comprehend other people's emotions can be overwhelming to the point you don't want to deal with them.

We help you to get out of your you-me stances of dysfunctional relationship patterns, and reconnect to the “us” of being on the same team and fighting FOR your relationship instead of with each other.

Those surface area emotions, joy, peace, happiness, and contentment have now become deep rooted emotions because I’ve made it to the other side. Instead of being fearful and stricken with worry, I can now rest in the peace (serenity) of accepting things I can’t change.

Trying to maintain the persona of one who is brave, but on the inside the fear and worry are chipping away at your core can be tough

I call it RELATIONAL FEAR, because with it comes collateral damage. Not only was I gripped by it (fear), but its effects were felt by those with whom I was in relationship with

People who don’t deal with fear, don’t realize how debilitating it is. If you want to torture somebody, make them afraid. I’ve done quite a bit of work with clients suffering from fear, worry, anxiety…whatever you want to call that thought gripping thing that makes it almost impossible to function at times.

You keep trying to make your partner listen, but the more you say “no” the less you are heard and the more forceful the situation gets. It happens, you are forced to have sex, unconsented and even painful, and to top it off you are insulted at the end because of “poor performance”